What do you feel when you think everything has shattered and you are left in despair? What is going in your mind when you think the world conspires against you? Do you feel alone? Depressed? Angry? Upset?
Whatever you feel at that chaotic moment of your life, feel it! Do not be in denial of what you really feel. Be accepting. Accept it! It is only when you accept that you will be able to find out the root cause of the problem and come up with sound solutions. If you need to isolate yourself, be alone for a while or stay away from others and reflect, then by all means do it if that what will help you alleviate the pain.
I was in the same state six years ago. I had relationship problem, and then issue at work. I had problem here, problem there, problem everywhere. I had great friends and colleagues who were there to listen, advice and comfort me or even served as my clown just to elicit that smile from my face. But, I still felt messy! I had to introspect, and from that introspection, I realized that time that my friends and colleagues could only help on the superficial level of what I was going through. If I had to eliminate the root cause of my problems, then I had to deal with the inner part of myself. That’s because problems stemmed from the inside and not from any outside force! Only when I dealt with the problem myself that I was able to move on and be happy with life.
In a nutshell, be accepting and move on! There’s no point to be stuck somewhere… let your life flow!
A friend came to me and asked for my opinion. She said she was having problem in relationships and career. She missed home. She spent most of her life way back home, but now, she is independently living on her own in another country. Her friends would tell her she changed a lot and these changes were negative to them. She said that only when you face trial that you will see who you’re friends really are.
I could see in her same fate where I was three years ago. I told her not to mind what others will say. As long as, what she does does not affect or hurt others. She should believe on her own, on her own capacity to think and stand up for herself. She is young and a beautiful lady. I am happy that as early as her age she is facing some difficulties… Because these difficulties will make her become a whole person who is ready whatever trials the world will give. The world is a better place to stay… it is better if you are able to compete and fight to survive! You need to fight and have the will to carry on.
We fail, but it doesn’t end there. We need to get up and give life a good fight!
I guess, ladies in there twenties should spend their time discovering themselves. Travel alone. Meditate. Take courses that you enjoy. Pursue your passion. Do yoga. Bungy jump. Sky dive. Whatever you like, do it without limitation (as long as you are not hurting anybody). The experiences you had in your twenties, use it as you strategize or position yourself in the society as you reach your 30s.
To the ladies in their 20s, explore the world and discover yourself!